Soul Mate Request Form

Introduction: This guideline is to assist you in attracting the relationship of your dreams - specifically speaking - a soul mate. By clarifying to ourselves exactly the kind of partner we want, our conscious and subconscious mind has a more specific focus to work with. Leaving such an important area of our life to the whim of fate is, perhaps, more of a problem than we know. The power of asking is clear in the statement: “Ask and you will receive.”  Life includes challenges as well as joys and ideally, we recognize that both are necessary for growth and balance. With these few ideas in mind, follow the guidelines below to outline the key characteristics of your ideal mate. This exercise will also assist you to know yourself more fully. In Part 1, there are 4 categories: Physical, Mental, Emotional and Spiritual. Write out at least 6 characteristics for each category that are absolute “Musts”, for you to feel met by your partner (* these may change over time). If you want or feel the need, add 4 more characteristics to each category as “Bonus”. I refer to these as the fundamental 24 characteristics and/or the “Top 40 Check List”. You can add more to each list if you like but you might consider these to be wants, which are less than Musts & Bonus characteristics. This exercise is powerful so take it seriously as in “be careful what you ask for”, yet it helps to have fun with it too! Part 1A is about Affirmations. Part 2 involves writing a list of what you definitely do not want. Part 3 includes some suggestions if you are on your way out of a relationship or would like to be single again. Part 4 offers a Suggested Reading List & includes information on having a “Personal Session” and/or “Report” about you & relationships, and/or your existing relationship. To do this exercise, have a separate blank sheet or two ready and simply hand write a heading for each category, as shown below, followed by enough space for 6 attributes that you must have and 4 extra lines for Bonus Characteristics. Remember, this is simply a guideline and you may have more in one category than another depending on your specific character and lifestyle. This list for each group begins with physical attributes, as people are often attracted to others this way. However, this is certainly not always the case and you may want to start with the attributes of one of the other groups first. In addition, your thoughts and feelings about what you want in a partner may come to you randomly in which case you can simply add the various attributes to each category accordingly. *Note: Be Clear! e.g. Do you want someone who is generous generally, or someone who is generous with you or both?

Part 1 “Yes, Please Deliver…: Make lists according to the following 4 categories to call in your ideal soul mate. Remember; write at least 6 Musts for each category and 4 Bonus characteristics. This is just a guideline and you can have less, but be careful not to be vague, or more, but be realistic.  You may want to condense this list so that you can carry it with you in your purse or wallet keeping your original posted at home or in your files.

Physical Characteristics of My Soul Mate: Describes the ideal qualities of the physical body& focus on the material world.

1- … 6- (= 6 Physical Musts: e.g. Blonde & blue eyes, athletic & fit, soft & cuddly, beautiful, financially independent, employed, ambitious, etcetera)

7- … 10- (= 4 Bonus Physical Characteristics)

Mental Characteristics of My Soul Mate: Includes the ideal qualities of the mind, level of intelligence, communication abilities.

1-6 (= 6 Mental, Psychological and/or Intellectual Musts: e.g. naturally intelligent, educated, communicates well with me, focused, etcetera)

7-10 (= 4 Bonus Mental/Psychological Characteristics)

Emotional Characteristics of My Soul Mate: Refers to the heart and feeling capacities.

1-6 (= 6 Emotional Musts e.g. empathetic, caring, considerate, compassionate, affectionate, generous, romantic, sensitive to my feelings etc.)

7-10 (= 4 Bonus Emotional Characteristics)

Spiritual Characteristics of My Soul Mate: Outlines the overall vision and aspiration to higher spiritual realities.

1-6 (= 6 Spiritual Musts e.g. intuitive, devotional to God, serves a higher purpose, meditates, follows a spiritual path, seeks enlightenment etc.)

7-10 (= 4 Bonus Spiritual Characteristics)

Part 1A - Affirmations: Affirmations can greatly help you to attract your soul mate as well. Always make affirmations in the present tense. e.g. “I am enjoying the relationship of my dreams!” or “I am enjoying fulfillment, and evolving harmoniously with my mate.”  Write at least three.

Part 2: - “No Way!”: Make a list of those characteristics that you absolutely do not want in a partner. The list can be as long or as short as you like. You will probably have at least 3 characteristics you definitely do not want and up to, say, 10.  Keep this list but do not focus on it too much. Save it for if and when you feel you may need it. This time is when you have found someone and you want to make extra sure that this is the right person for you, as far as you can tell. Keep this on a separate sheet or on the back of one of the other sheets so that you can fold and/or post out of sight!

Part 3: - “Thank You & Farewell!”: It is a fact that not all relationships last or were even meant to last. This is even true with soul mate relationships. Some believe that a soul mate is for life, but this is not necessarily true due to the complexities of life. For example, people change and sometimes they die young and there are reasons that are more complex as well. Thanks to the “Law of the Eternal Now” we can learn to live life fully ‘in the Now’ with whomever is in our life recognizing that they may not always be with us. This awareness can help us to be ‘more present’ with, appreciative and respectful of our love/mate. This part includes intentionally creating a ritual ideally with your departing love, or alone, according to the realities of your situation. This ritual can be as simple or as elaborate as you like. For example, consider a candle, some flowers and perhaps incense during a quiet & private time when you can reflect, ideally with gratitude, the time and special moments you did share as well as how you did grow, mature and evolve together. You may also want to clarify what did not work for you and be sure to add it/them to your “No Way!” list.

Part 4: -  Suggested Reading to further enhance your relationship: 1) Learning to Love Yourself: Gay Hendricks 2) How to Stay Lovers for Life: Sharon Wolf 3) Speak from the Heart: Stephen Arbuca 4) The Power of Now & the Power of Now in Relationships: Eckart Tolle 5) The Multi-Orgasmic Couple: Mantak Chia & Abrams 6) The Alchemy of Ecstasy: Slinger & Douglas 7) Love Magic: Antonia Beattie 8) Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus: John Gray 9) Secret Language of Relationships: Gary Goldschneider 10)Astrology for the Soul: Jan Spiller

To deepen your love, understand one another better, help each other to grow and to create more overall harmony, Please consider an Astrological Compatibility Chart Reading either in a “Report” format or personally with a professional Astrologer, Call: Michael O’Connor (250-352-2936) or visit www.sunstarastrology.com to order a “Friends & Lovers” Report.